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Of meat and men

January 20, 2012

My kind of man.

I’ll refrain from making the obvious meat/sausage-fest jokes in this post. After all, I’m 32, not 23 (most of the time).

There are few weeks in which I don’t have to explain, at least once, what my eating preferences are. I grew up on a vegetarian diet of fresh fruit, vegetables, beans, legumes and a plethora of grains. Since those years, I have more or less maintained my vegetarianism, though I am more likely to call myself a “pescetarian” or (jokingly) a “flexi-tarian” (as my mostly-vegetarian-with-occasional-fish diet is supplemented by an bi-annual burger).

The bottom line: moderation is the name of my game. I rarely get drunk, and even more rarely enjoy it when I do. I play this odd game with myself, called “What would it be like if I moved to _____?” (name of random country) And I know that if I had to relocate, tomorrow, to a Muslim country where alcohol was prohibited, I wouldn’t be concerned. I don’t smoke, though I did in my college years, and infrequently experience the so-called benefits of getting high. Given an open schedule, I enjoy exactly 9 hours of sleep, so all-nighters and 4-hour nights are merely tolerated while I survive graduate school. In fact, the only thing extreme about my life is my addiction to Facebook.

I know that it’s unlikely that I’ll end up in a relationship with a vegetarian, unless I become a lesbian (seriously; in a large-scale study of vegetarians, only 32% were men while 68% were women). I have dated vegetarians: a Canadian Seventh-day Adventist; a Taiwanese atheist (Paul) who became vegetarian for animal rights; an African-American Seventh-day Adventist athlete; an Indian man who grew up Hindu. An atheist guy friend of mine is vegan. I have also dated wannabe vegetarians, like Edgar, whose travels and tendency for empathy nearly led him to vegetarianism if it weren’t for his love of all things beef. Or Bob, a Taiwanese-American man who took on vegetarianism after he became interested in me, then dropped it after I broke up with him.

Then there was this one guy I dated last summer. Or rather, went on two dates with. He was considerate, creative, and photographed for and wrote a blog about STEAK. Not just steak, but also burgers, barbecuing, bacon, and anything that involved buckets of butter (brioche, anyone?)…

Exhibit A

Exhibit B

Exhibit C

The gross, grand finale...

I know what some of you may be thinking: “He cooks, and takes pretty photos, and gosh-darn-it, I love steak and eggs.” If that’s you and you live in southern California, by all means, email me and I’ll see what I can do to introduce the two of you. He’s a likable man, but when I saw the blog, I knew I had reached my limit. I could love the man, but there was no way I could love what he ate.

So I have to see moderation in the man I choose. If he’s carnivorous, I have two requests: to never cook meat for him and if he must bring meat into the house, to have it in the kitchen for no more than a day. I don’t think this will be a problem; I’ve never had a complaint about my cooking, which is creative and full of flavor.

Now (I haven’t done one of these in a while) a poll!

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9 Comments leave one →
  1. January 20, 2012 11:38 am

    Zoe, where can I find this magical mystery meat blog? I just did a piece myself on BBQ Canadian style.

    • January 20, 2012 2:47 pm

      Bob, I really don’t want to “out” him on this blog (he’s a great guy, not to mention – he never knew about this blog), but I’ll email you the link. Enjoy! :)

  2. January 25, 2012 10:16 am

    I think it’s really important that the person you’re with share the same type of diet habits. At the end of the day I find the dominant personality usually wins out. I dated a girl that was a vegetarian… needless to say she wasn’t one after we broke up. LOL If I’d had to do it again thought I’d encourage her to stay vegetarian…

  3. February 3, 2012 4:38 pm

    I’m in often on vegetarian. I love my meat, but for the most part I feel a lot better when I only eat vegetables.

  4. February 10, 2012 1:56 pm

    I think if both people in the relationship are flexible it can work. I dated a vegetarian woman for two years. When we cooked at home it was primarily vegetarian (no complaints from me), but if we went out to eat and I ordered a meat dish, she didn’t shy away from kissing me after the meal. I believe in eating delicious food, that means non-meat dishes as well. I think it’s all in the perception.

  5. March 14, 2012 11:51 am

    I’ve nominated you for The Versatile Blogger award!
    Thank you for making my day brighter through your blog!

  6. April 3, 2012 6:41 am

    Hey there,
    Just wanted to say I really like/ relate to your blog (and also I found you via my pal Michal). Your philosophy on disclosure about the blog especially resonates.
    Here’s mine about internet dating if you want to check it out.

  7. May 28, 2012 1:22 am

    Is this an abandoned blog? I was enjoying it.

    • July 25, 2013 1:55 pm

      I stepped away to spend time on my Ph.D. and a long-term relationship (with someone who didn’t want to be blogged about, to be fair). I’m back, though I can’t say I will be a regular contributor. I’ll do my best. :)

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